A common question I get from clients is whether or not they have to choose strictly from the menu list their caterer provides. In many cases, they might want something that’s a bit different: perhaps a different preparation of salmon than the choices listed, or another entree choice that isn’t listed at all. In some cases, there may be more specific requirements that need to be addressed, if the bride, groom, or any of their guests require a gluten-free or vegan meal.

Most of the time, when a caterer provides you with menus to choose from, they are not telling you that those items are the only things they can prepare, but that those are the more popular items they have prepared and served over the years. It makes sense for them from a time standpoint to not create a personalized menu for every potential client, but that doesn’t mean you can’t ask for one! While many of their clients will be happy to choose from the basic menus presented, if you want something different, your caterer will be happy to work with you on a custom menu, tailored to your needs and tastes. In short: don’t be afraid to ask for something that isn’t initially presented. Your caterer will probably be excited to work on something new!

Some other notes on planning your menu: Keep in mind, when providing meal choices for your guests, you don’t need to give every option under the sun. You aren’t running a restaurant, and if a guest requires a vegan or vegetarian meal, they will let you know, even if it’s not listed as an option. (Same goes for those with various food allergies). Keep your invitation response card uncluttered by just listing the main entree choices (2-3 at most).

When it comes to making the final choices, many people will want to weigh in. Your sister might think you’re crazy for not choosing the Pecan Crusted Chicken she loved at the tasting, your mother-in-law to-be might insist upon a Steak and Lobster duet and your grandmother might give you the side-eye if you tell her you’ve opted for a buffet over a plated meal. Try not to let the stress of other people’s opinions get to you… in the end, you can’t please everyone, and you have to remember it’s your wedding. While you don’t want to go too over the top choosing items that the majority of guests might not eat (e.g., only serving veal), in the end you should choose what you like. You deserve to enjoy your meal!